Yesterday marked my 14th anniversary of getting sober – which is a big deal! And also tends to stir up a lot of weird emotions: ambiguous grief, an intense combination of gratitude and longing, lots of hope and heaviness at the same time… So this episode is very much about my recovery specifically, but also about pausing to reflect on how far we’ve come – any of us, around anything we’ve been working toward or events that have changed us.The invitations I offer here are to reflect on where you were a year ago and all the things that have changed, and also for you to think about one of the things you want for yourself, the change that you want to make for your higher good, and to then reach out and get some support. Because if I’ve learned anything in the last 14 years, it’s that we can’t do this shit alone.Read the transcript at SettlingIsBullshit.com – https://settlingisbullshit.com/2024/07/03/honoring-anniversaries-of-sobriety-and-other-milestones/Resources, References, and Links:The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk. One of the most famous books about trauma. Also, written more for mental health professionals than us lay people, but it’s a pretty big deal in the field. https://www.besselvanderkolk.com/resources/the-body-keeps-the-scoreMy coaching business: https://www.wanderlightcoaching.com/Original post “What My Recovery Means to Me” – https://settlingisbullshit.com/2023/07/02/what-my-recovery-means-to-me/My post on perfectionism, “Doing Things Imperfectly in Public” – https://settlingisbullshit.com/2024/01/16/doing-things-imperfectly-in-public/My post on personal archives, “Viewing Our Past with Generosity” – https://settlingisbullshit.com/2024/03/18/viewing-our-past-with-generosity/The episode on comparison, “Comparison Is the Thief of Joy” – https://rss.com/podcasts/settlingisbullshit/1432154/