This is for relationships that can be best described as dry kindling: dealing, politely, but no warmth or closeness. Maybe you feel your partner is critical, that you are invisible, and when fights occur, they go to DEFCON level 1 instantly, and nothing gets resolved, the loop only resets. So in the day to day, there’s little connection between you. If this sounds familiar, I want you to imagine you and your partner are in a glass display. Like a window at a store. Close to 90% of all communication is non-verbal, so if you are noticing there is no love and affection being expressed on a non-verbal level, this is one place to start. More on this in the episode plus tools for stepping back from the hurt. A little change can go a long way in allowing the love that still lives to come forth. Big caveat: this episode is for those in “safe” relationships, not abusive ones. If you are in an abusive relationship here is one resource to get help: National Domestic Violence Hotline.   Support this week’s sponsors: MeUndies Check out the brand new MeUndies Kids line today! To get 20% off your first order, plus free shipping, go to MeUndies.com/helpmebeme and enter promo code helpmebeme   Chewy Chewy is helping take the stress out of the holidays. Take advantage of amazing holiday savings and shop my personal favorites at Chewy.com/podhelpmebeme   BetterHelp Let the gratitude flow, with BetterHelp. Visit Betterhelp.com/helpmebeme today to get 10% off your first month. LMNT  Get your free LMNT Sample Pack with any purchase at DrinkLMNT.com/HelpMeBeMe Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices